When you encounter a setback or a stumbling block in life, know that life is not trying to ruin you. The purpose of failure is to humble you. What happens when you become humble? You see beyond yourself. You see how your life fits in the world and how it is intertwined with the fate of those around you and those you will never meet. Being humble means crying about someone dying in a bar and having an acquaintance tell you that it’s not as bad as you think because they have no idea why you are crying, but you simply accept it because you know they are trying their best without trying to inflict pain. Being humble means showing compassion to those who never showed you any. Being humble means being thankful for all the good and bad things that have ever happened to you.
A funny thing happens when you become humble. You shed your skin of vulnerability, for you no longer fear defeat. Defeat becomes your friend and you find you are capable of the impossible suddenly. There are those who will continue to lament the very real tragedies in their lives, but when they refuse to see the good in the tragedy, they still open themselves up to the rift of pain that exists and they can never escape that cycle of self-inflicted pain. How do you see the good? Realize that the world does not revolve around you, but that instead, you exist to make the world a better place. If you let yourself be defeated by defeat, you wallow in a kind of selfish pity that threatens you with only more defeat. But if you’ve become immune to defeat, you can become selfless.
You should never court failure, but if it does happen, welcome it as the humbling agent it is. For only those who have tasted defeat knows how sweet success does taste.